Revitalize your relationship
You are finding yourselves in a place where you both feel stuck, unseen, and alone. Yet you want to save this, you want to get back to your best days. There’s a dynamic of anxious attacking and pursuing that is met with avoidant distancing and withdrawing. You have no idea how to calm each other down and frankly, sometimes you don’t want to even bother. Sex? Yeah right. That’s suffering as well. This is all draining you of your life force, impairing your functioning in all areas (personal, professional, financial, spiritual), and pushing you further apart. I’d love to help you become experts on each other and to build a secure functioning relationship that creates vs. depletes energy.
My rate: $260/hr
Relational Approach
I am trained in Relational Life Therapy, a couples modality developed by Terry Real. It is a very direct and no-nonsense approach that has been lauded for its rapid effectiveness, laser focus, and fearlessness in naming what is actually happening in the room. Trauma work is done in session in front of your partner. Power imbalances will be made explicit. The goal is to bring you out of the loneliness of disconnection, and into relational joy. I also weave in body-based interventions from my PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) and various tools from the Gottmans.
Specialties
The root of couples therapy, secure functioning, and all of my training is SAFETY.
We will help you become experts on each other’s emotional states, how to regulate each other’s nervous systems, and how to communicate with each other non-violently.
Specialties:
High-conflict
Power imbalances
Communication issues
Intimacy / desire discrepancies
Premarital counseling
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